DON’T BE TOO ANOINTED TO TELL YOUR SPOUSE, ‘I LOVE YOU’.
IT IS A SIGN OF MASCULINITY NOT TO SAY, ‘SORRY’ TO YOUR SPOUSE.
MARRY SOMEONE YOU ARE READY TO FORGIVE. BE A FORGIVER.
DON’T STEP INTO MARRIAGE CASUALLY, BE WATCHFUL!
AS A MAN LET YOUR CHILDREN AND YOUR WIFE SEE THE PICTURE OF GOD THE FATHER WHEN THEY SEE YOU.
ANY SPIRITUALITY THAT IS NOT PRACTICAL IS FAKE.
– Dr. Pastor Paul Enenche on “DOMINATING THROUGH A STABLE MARITAL AND FAMILY LIFE ” || 2023 Destiny Recovery Convention || Glory Dome, Abuja || Part B.
The man who agrees to push out his wife, the man who agrees to make his children begin to cry that they can’t see their father anymore because a so-called Jezebel, a Delilah pocketed him and he agreed to be pocketed.
One woman called a woman in whose house her husband was camping. She said, ‘Woman, I am a woman like you, don’t do that to me and my children! Will you release this man now’? The woman said, ‘If you threaten me, you won’t see him for the next seven weeks! Don’t joke with me, who told you that she belongs to only you’?
That is the reality of the world that we live in. You don’t need to go that way of Eve and destroy the beauty that God creates and go counter to the plan and purpose of God. It doesn’t matter what your ambition is, it is not worth ruining the plan of God for the sake of your very personal selfish desire. You can see how Adam lost dominion and authority because there was intrinsic family and relationship failure.
Very very quickly, let me summarise the preaching of God’s Handmaiden and the things that we need to go home with, in twelve points.
This is my counsel in twelve ways both to everyone who is single and to everyone who is married. Starting with the single:
1. Determine to fully involve God in your journey of destiny
This is talking about the journey of marriage and Ministry- Fully involve God. Don’t take the journey alone. You don’t know the future, you don’t know the content of things.
Determine to fully involve God in your journey of destiny and that involves marriage and Ministry. This is you saying, ‘I’ve not followed this way before’!
2. Be watchful in your choice of life partner
Don’t step into marriage casually, be watchful!
3. Ask God to unveil everything you need to know about the person (That potential wife or husband) before you conclude, to avoid being deceived or taken by surprise. I feel a lot of pain these days when I see a young lady being deceived by a man or deceived by a woman.
Under twenty-four hours, forty-eight hours and one week, the true colour of that devil agent will manifest and they are just wondering what to do with their lives.
4. Avoid rushing into any decision like the marital decision, that is not easily changeable.
5. Be a true Christian
Be truly spiritual, don’t be fake, don’t be unreal. Be a true Christian! Every true Christian will make a good husband and every good Christian will make a good wife.
6. Accept responsibilities of the Word
Accept the responsibilities of the Word in your relationship. ‘Husband, love your wife’, accept that responsibility and love your wife. ‘Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands’, accept that responsibility!
Practice the Word in your home. What my wife was telling you saying, ‘I love you’ and all of that – I don’t know how many times that she heard it today. You Pastor? Yes! Very spiritual! At times, your face is like Sunshine, but that spirituality is communicated in practicality.
Any spirituality that is not practical is fake, you are too anointed to say, ‘I love you’! Husbands love your wives. Too spiritual, too anointed and too solid! Eh? When you say, ‘I love you’, it appears as if you are weak. Who said so? Jesus was the strongest of men yet He wept – It is not timidity, it is not weakness. It’s a sign of masculinity to not say sorry or ‘I love you’ to your spouse.
These things can be practical, your life can be easy, you can take off pressure from your life and destiny. Let us practice the Bible in our marriage, in your family, with our children. Practice the Scriptures, accept the responsibility of the Word in your home and marriage.
7. Confirm your love and goodness from your home first (Charity they say begins at home)
What is the meaning? We heard that in the preaching, you are smiling for everybody yet you come home and you are frowning. The moment you reach the entrance of your house, your face changes. What a useless person!
You are good to everybody, you are very liberal, you give money to everybody, everybody is talking about your goodness except your wife and children. I told my children and said, ‘Don’t ever be afraid to ask me for everything, provided you need it and you believe that I have it’. I gave them an open cheque and they have never abused that cheque. Pocket money in school, most times they won’t finish it – ‘Don’t send me anything, I’m okay’!
Be a reflection of the love of God first, as a man let your children and your wife see the picture of God the Father when they see you! When they observe your behaviour and character, let it be the picture of God the Father! I don’t know what my children posted some time ago, I don’t know whether I was carrying my guy at the back or playing with Destiny on her hair or something and they posted it. Somebody commented and said, ‘Wow! So is this kind of thing possible?
Are you sure this kind of thing happens and it happens all the time? And then all of them unanimously said, ‘We are unable to post one-tenth, we can’t post 1/100 (One over one hundred) of the level of interactions because some minds will run mad. There is far more, this is a shadow of our interaction. I saw my picture with one of my children the other day, in fact Destiny recorded it and said, ‘Daddy, can I post’? And I said, ‘No! This one is a bit homely! (Laughing). It makes life easy for you.
8. Be a reflection of the love of God in your marriage
Whether you are the man or woman, be the reflection.
10. Be a forgiver
Marry someone you are ready to forgive. Be a forgiver! Don’t keep holding on to past errors and mistakes and there is something I’m going to tell you now and you must take your life to it.
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